Male Submission Art

Art and visual erotica that depicts masculine submission.

We showcase beautiful imagery where men and other male-identified people are submissive subjects. We aim to challenge stereotypes of the "pathetic" submissive man. Learn more….

Your steward is maymay. Want to collaborate with me? It's easy: visit MaleSubmissionArt.com/submit or tag your Delicious.com bookmarks as for:MaleSubmissionArt! More ways to contribute….

Creative Commons License
Original work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License. We make a concerted effort to attribute works properly; please show us, and the artists whose work we feature, the same courtesy. Please redistribute this work; you are not stealing.

JanesGuide.com says we are 'quality and original'!

ztvf7jsh8a
Fri Jul 4
douchey-dominant:

glimpseofyouth:

I’m analyzing women and their images in history.

douchey-dominant:

glimpseofyouth:

I’m analyzing women and their images in history.

ISLAMOPHOBE … WANTS A "HAREM"

ztvf7jsh8a
douchey-dominant:

contemplative-domination:

Less kvetching, more fetching.
Male, Married, 30s.
Torn between a healthy belief in feminism and a desire to objectify. Okay, not really that torn.

"TORN BETWEEN BELIEF IN FEMINISM AND DESIRE TO OBJECTIFY … OKAY, NOT REALLY THAT TORN"

douchey-dominant:

contemplative-domination:

Less kvetching, more fetching.

Male, Married, 30s.

Torn between a healthy belief in feminism and a desire to objectify. Okay, not really that torn.

"TORN BETWEEN BELIEF IN FEMINISM AND DESIRE TO OBJECTIFY … OKAY, NOT REALLY THAT TORN"

ztvf7jsh8a
maymay:

notquitemyagony:

notfuckingcishet:

Ok last one of the Doucheydom meme. 

Could someone elaborate on this/give examples? Specifically on what ‘eroticizing rape culture’ means/looks like? (I’m not arguing or defending, I’m genuinely having trouble understanding and would like to).

"Eroticizing rape culture" means sexualizing coercive sexual tropes that occur in your cultural context. For example, if you live in a society where it’s common to catcall women on the street or grope women’s bodies on the train (like, say, every country on Earth that has streets or trains), then "eroticizing rape culture" often looks like calling your sexual partner the same sorts of words that people use to catcall women, or grabbing their bodies in the same places and from the same angles as though you were on a train.
There’s nothing wrong with using words that turn you and your partner on, or feeling your sweetie up in ways that feel good to the two of you, of course, and no one is saying that there is. Not even dyed-in-the-wool hardcore anti-kink radfems are saying that. (So don’t believe the hype from people who will tell you that that’s what folks are saying when they say “eroticizing rape culture.”)
What people (like me) ARE saying is that we’ve observed a commonality in the ways that people engage in sexual behavior and signalling. Further, we’re observing that this commonality is shared among a virtually impossible majority of otherwise extremely different individuals. And we’re suggesting that this isn’t actually a mystery.
We’re saying that the reason many people (like me) find the sorts of things that are reminiscent of, say, catcalling and groping people on the train sexy in the first place is related to the ways in which we were acculturated by our particular culture’s sexual messaging. In other words, a lot of people find coercive sexual tropes arousing because our culture eroticizes rape.
The Douchey Dom meme you asked about, shown above, illustrates how the BDSM subculture goes one step further. Beyond merely eroticizing rape, it eroticizes the eroticization of rape. It’s not just that “rape is sexy.” What’s sexy, in BDSM, is finding rape sexy. In fact, the Douchey Dom meme was conceived to point out the absurdity of “celebrating gay rights” by eroticizing non-consensual imprisonment—a torture endured by many LGBT people to this day.
Of course, that’s not how BDSM’ers talk about what they’re doing, because nobody other than rapists thinks “finding rape sexy” is actually sexy. So the Douchey Dom meme is pointing out both that there is a LOT of cultural overlap between the BDSM subculture and the mainstream—more than BDSM’ers will admit to—and also pointing out that the set of people defined as “rapists” differs depending on who you are. BDSM’ers think the Douchey Dom represents “those bad doms, not us good doms,” whereas other people think the Douchey Dom represents, well, BDSM’ers.

maymay:

notquitemyagony:

notfuckingcishet:

Ok last one of the Doucheydom meme. 

Could someone elaborate on this/give examples? Specifically on what ‘eroticizing rape culture’ means/looks like? (I’m not arguing or defending, I’m genuinely having trouble understanding and would like to).

"Eroticizing rape culture" means sexualizing coercive sexual tropes that occur in your cultural context. For example, if you live in a society where it’s common to catcall women on the street or grope women’s bodies on the train (like, say, every country on Earth that has streets or trains), then "eroticizing rape culture" often looks like calling your sexual partner the same sorts of words that people use to catcall women, or grabbing their bodies in the same places and from the same angles as though you were on a train.

There’s nothing wrong with using words that turn you and your partner on, or feeling your sweetie up in ways that feel good to the two of you, of course, and no one is saying that there is. Not even dyed-in-the-wool hardcore anti-kink radfems are saying that. (So don’t believe the hype from people who will tell you that that’s what folks are saying when they say “eroticizing rape culture.”)

What people (like me) ARE saying is that we’ve observed a commonality in the ways that people engage in sexual behavior and signalling. Further, we’re observing that this commonality is shared among a virtually impossible majority of otherwise extremely different individuals. And we’re suggesting that this isn’t actually a mystery.

We’re saying that the reason many people (like me) find the sorts of things that are reminiscent of, say, catcalling and groping people on the train sexy in the first place is related to the ways in which we were acculturated by our particular culture’s sexual messaging. In other words, a lot of people find coercive sexual tropes arousing because our culture eroticizes rape.

The Douchey Dom meme you asked about, shown above, illustrates how the BDSM subculture goes one step further. Beyond merely eroticizing rape, it eroticizes the eroticization of rape. It’s not just that “rape is sexy.” What’s sexy, in BDSM, is finding rape sexy. In fact, the Douchey Dom meme was conceived to point out the absurdity of “celebrating gay rights” by eroticizing non-consensual imprisonment—a torture endured by many LGBT people to this day.

Of course, that’s not how BDSM’ers talk about what they’re doing, because nobody other than rapists thinks “finding rape sexy” is actually sexy. So the Douchey Dom meme is pointing out both that there is a LOT of cultural overlap between the BDSM subculture and the mainstream—more than BDSM’ers will admit to—and also pointing out that the set of people defined as “rapists” differs depending on who you are. BDSM’ers think the Douchey Dom represents “those bad doms, not us good doms,” whereas other people think the Douchey Dom represents, well, BDSM’ers.

ztvf7jsh8a

maymay:

My new “Douchey Dom" faves.

HAS THREE COLLARED SUBMISSIVES … “SINGLE” ON DATING SITES

FAVORITE MOVIE: SECRETARY … FAVORITE GIRLFRIEND: SECRETARY

SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL … UNTIL YOU SAY NO

MY MILKSHAKE BRINGS ALL THE … EASILY DISCREDITABLE WITNESSES TO THE YARD

THAT WASN’T “RAPE” … IT WAS “PUSHING HER LIMITS”

SUBMISSIVE WOMAN? … YOU MEAN, LIKE, ASIAN?

BDSM CLUB? … YOU MEAN THE CONSEQUENCE FREE ZONE?

CONSENSUAL NON-CONSENT … YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU TELL HER IT WAS HER IDEA

Now with moar Tumblr.

ztvf7jsh8a
Thu Jul 3
notfuckingcishet:

Ok last one of the Doucheydom meme. 

notfuckingcishet:

Ok last one of the Doucheydom meme. 

ztvf7jsh8a
notfuckingcishet:

More from the DoucheyDom meme

notfuckingcishet:

More from the DoucheyDom meme

ztvf7jsh8a

Only in a D/s relationship

douchey-dominant:

wolf-and-kitten:

…can you insist that your girlfriend give you the login info to her private account on sites like Fetlife and tumblr, and it’s not only considered okay, but she loves it.

STUDIOUSLY READS YOUR SCENE REPORTS … AND YOUR EMAIL AND TXT MESSAGES AND IM CHATS AND OKCUPID MESSAGES

ztvf7jsh8a

dorkisaslur-deactivated20140510 said: What's your opinion on soft bdsm or kinky vanilla sex (such as light bondage and just pegging)

maymay:

unquietpirate:

douchey-dominant:

kinksterbullshit:

I guess there’s got to be a word for it, like maybe a fetish vs. a kink though they’ve become synonymous (if any follower has a better way to put this please feel free). Someone once said “Lick as many toes as you want or whatever.” That to me is more like a “vanilla” preference that may be unusual but not abusive - unless of course the individual who has the thing for feet makes his or her partner uncomfortable with constant urging to participate despite protestations. One of the main problems I have with “kink” or BDSM is the fact that though “safe, sane and consensual” is the “motto” there really is little respect for boundaries. The dialog becomes “But just try it,” “You’ll learn to like it,” or “you should want to make me happy!” That’s coercion, not consent. That all being said, if you like certain textures like feathers or leather, or some other non-abusive tendency that both partners are truly comfortable with, it really is entirely different.

Pegging? If that’s what you’re into and it’s not an act of violence, ok. It’s not like anal sex or dildos/vibrators are exclusive to the S&M community. Light bondage is a slippery slope. Velvet handcuffs or whatever? It still has the connotations of power dynamics that are the basis of how problematic BDSM is.

 - Sharon

image

See? Even “anti-kink” radfems in all their obtuseness grok that there’s a difference between fetishy sex and BDSM.

The only people who claim that BDSM is synonymous with kinky sex are rape-apologist BDSMers who have a vested interest in convincing you that you’re just like them

Also, the Douchey Dom now has a blog. ;)

OMG and he also has a FetLife profile.

ztvf7jsh8a
maymay:

I’m starting to think Douchey Dom is also the perfect way to explain rape culture to BDSM’ers:

"I’VE ALWAYS BEEN KINKY." … TREATED GIRLFRIENDS LIKE SUBMISSIVES SINCE BEFORE HE HEARD OF BDSM

maymay:

I’m starting to think Douchey Dom is also the perfect way to explain rape culture to BDSM’ers:

"I’VE ALWAYS BEEN KINKY." … TREATED GIRLFRIENDS LIKE SUBMISSIVES SINCE BEFORE HE HEARD OF BDSM

ztvf7jsh8a

Anonymous said: Can you please tag the douchey dom meme? Some of it is really triggering.

maymay:

notfuckingcishet:

sure, no problem. 

I’m quite forgetful about adding trigger warnings though so I may fuck up once or twice, sorry. 

What I am starting to really enjoy about the Douchey Dom meme and how people have been adding to it is that it seems to exist in the uncanny valley between “BDSM is hawt” and “wait no seriously stop fetishizing rape apologism.”

Best I can hope for with Douchey Dom is that continuing to spotlight that uncanny valley will get people to realize just how central rape apologism is to BDSM.