Male Submission Art

Art and visual erotica that depicts masculine submission.

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Fri Mar 26
A shirtless man with a bloodied back kneels in front of a standing woman who’s holding his hair in one hand and his cheek with the other.
This photograph is an old picture of me and Eileen. I love it because it reminds me of the loving relationship I had with her. I’m proud of it because it (and the response it got on my blog) was an early spotlight on the need for a more equitable representation of and focus on submissive men in erotic imagery, rather than a myopic view of women.
This picture was also re-published by Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks in a bulletin inciting several bloggers to name me a “pedophile” and “sexual predator.” They cite my work on KinkForAll as cause, which I’ve written about before, and they make references to this blog, Male Submission Art. These are both places where I consistently speak up in defense of a fundamental human right to access free educational resources, including sexuality-related ones.
It’s hard to stand tall when mean, angry, or frightened people like Margaret Brooks and Donna M. Hughes, the same person who conflated Megan Andelloux’s non-profit sexuality education center with human trafficking, misquote you seemingly on purpose and paint you as a creature of (their) nightmares. It’s greatly offensive and fucking terrifying to be likened to things you revile.
Donna M. Hughes, Margaret Brooks, and other fear-mongering alarmists scare me because their vitriolic ignorance hampers the very thing we all want: a generation free of sexual abuse. When they conflate adults’ consensual behaviors with humanity’s worst, they aren’t just attacking me personally, they damage the possibility for everyone on Earth to live free of sexual coercion, whether the abuser is an individual, consumerist culture, or religion.
Standing up for what you believe in isn’t mutually exclusive with being scared or angry. That’s why it’s partly because of people like Margaret Brooks, Donna M. Hughes, and others who baselessly equate evil intent with whatever their personal sexual mores don’t allow, that I am standing tall, speaking up, and writing all this in the first place.
If I can stand up and empower others to break free of intimidation or coercion about what they should or should not do, want, or think, then you can do it, too. So speak up and help one person make something better for themselves than was done for you.
-maymay

A shirtless man with a bloodied back kneels in front of a standing woman who’s holding his hair in one hand and his cheek with the other.

This photograph is an old picture of me and Eileen. I love it because it reminds me of the loving relationship I had with her. I’m proud of it because it (and the response it got on my blog) was an early spotlight on the need for a more equitable representation of and focus on submissive men in erotic imagery, rather than a myopic view of women.

This picture was also re-published by Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks in a bulletin inciting several bloggers to name me a “pedophile” and “sexual predator.” They cite my work on KinkForAll as cause, which I’ve written about before, and they make references to this blog, Male Submission Art. These are both places where I consistently speak up in defense of a fundamental human right to access free educational resources, including sexuality-related ones.

It’s hard to stand tall when mean, angry, or frightened people like Margaret Brooks and Donna M. Hughes, the same person who conflated Megan Andelloux’s non-profit sexuality education center with human trafficking, misquote you seemingly on purpose and paint you as a creature of (their) nightmares. It’s greatly offensive and fucking terrifying to be likened to things you revile.

Donna M. Hughes, Margaret Brooks, and other fear-mongering alarmists scare me because their vitriolic ignorance hampers the very thing we all want: a generation free of sexual abuse. When they conflate adults’ consensual behaviors with humanity’s worst, they aren’t just attacking me personally, they damage the possibility for everyone on Earth to live free of sexual coercion, whether the abuser is an individual, consumerist culture, or religion.

Standing up for what you believe in isn’t mutually exclusive with being scared or angry. That’s why it’s partly because of people like Margaret Brooks, Donna M. Hughes, and others who baselessly equate evil intent with whatever their personal sexual mores don’t allow, that I am standing tall, speaking up, and writing all this in the first place.

If I can stand up and empower others to break free of intimidation or coercion about what they should or should not do, want, or think, then you can do it, too. So speak up and help one person make something better for themselves than was done for you.

-maymay

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Sun Mar 14
Crouching in darkness, a man with long hair perches on his fists and the balls of his feet, his hair thrown over his face, covering much of his naked body.
I don’t typically like photographs whose levels have been altered for “artistic effect,” but for some reason this red-toned picture, sent in by John Pickman, appeals to me. John noted that the photograph is by S. E. Rider, and wrote:
This photo was part of an exploration of D/s themes and ideas between my partner at the time (the photographer) and I. I like this one in particular because it seems archetypal, removed from the constraints of any one person or place. Submission isn’t something you do, it’s something you are, and we tried to capture that.
Interestingly, this image doesn’t seem to evoke submissiveness to me, but rather strength, possibly even anger. The curled, almost gorilla-like crouched pose along with the hot red and white coloring brings rebellious, not docile, thoughts to mind. Although it might seem an inappropriate thing to put on a site called “Male Submission Art,” I think it’s crucial for “submissive people” like me to acknowledge when we’re not feeling submissive.
I’m often annoyed by inappropriate expectations of docility many have of me when the only thing they know is that I use the label “submissive” to refer to my sexuality, and I find any formulation of submission that denies me agency repugnant. Articulating sexually submissive desires becomes even more challenging when the language available to discuss them fumbles so gracelessly and without distinction between fantasy and reality. It’s one thing to experience pleasure from a position of “meekness” (one of many synonyms for “submission” by Thesaurus.com), it is quite another to live meekly.
-maymay

Crouching in darkness, a man with long hair perches on his fists and the balls of his feet, his hair thrown over his face, covering much of his naked body.

I don’t typically like photographs whose levels have been altered for “artistic effect,” but for some reason this red-toned picture, sent in by John Pickman, appeals to me. John noted that the photograph is by S. E. Rider, and wrote:

This photo was part of an exploration of D/s themes and ideas between my partner at the time (the photographer) and I. I like this one in particular because it seems archetypal, removed from the constraints of any one person or place. Submission isn’t something you do, it’s something you are, and we tried to capture that.

Interestingly, this image doesn’t seem to evoke submissiveness to me, but rather strength, possibly even anger. The curled, almost gorilla-like crouched pose along with the hot red and white coloring brings rebellious, not docile, thoughts to mind. Although it might seem an inappropriate thing to put on a site called “Male Submission Art,” I think it’s crucial for “submissive people” like me to acknowledge when we’re not feeling submissive.

I’m often annoyed by inappropriate expectations of docility many have of me when the only thing they know is that I use the label “submissive” to refer to my sexuality, and I find any formulation of submission that denies me agency repugnant. Articulating sexually submissive desires becomes even more challenging when the language available to discuss them fumbles so gracelessly and without distinction between fantasy and reality. It’s one thing to experience pleasure from a position of “meekness” (one of many synonyms for “submission” by Thesaurus.com), it is quite another to live meekly.

-maymay

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A promotional image from the International Women’s Health Coalition Young Visionaries contest, encouraging young people to create lasting change in the world by advocating for the sexual health and reproductive rights of women and other youth.
Regular readers know that I have many projects. I try not to interrupt the flow of masculine submission imagery often, but when my other projects pull me strongly, this blog takes a back seat. Most recently, I entered the International Women’s Health Coalition (IWHC) Young Visionaries contest along with my Kink On Tap co-host, Emma, with a new media project called SexEdEverywhere (“SEE”):
The core of the project is a sexual health education and empowerment video campaign highlighting the reality that we learn about sex from disparate sources in many locations. I believe that the time has come for people to realize that “sex education” is not, has never been, and never should be confined to health class. I believe that young people, sexuality minorities, and certain other disenfranchised groups (still including, sadly, women) have an enormously important role to play in reforming the empty-vessel, top-down model of education and turning it into a peer-to-peer meritocracy where accurate information wins out over misinformation because it saves lives rather than being politically expedient.
That’s why Emma and I have put together a proposal for the project and submitted it to the IWHC Young Visionaries contest, a contest that, if we win, would seed our project with $1000 USD of necessary funding to get it off the ground. Part of the criteria for winning the contest is based on popular vote, which means I need your votes to win.
If SexEdEverywhere sounds like a project worth supporting, please go to the IWHC voting page and click on “Vote” next to our picture. There’s no sign-up or login necessary to vote, and the more people vote the better our chances of winning the grant for this ambitious campaign, so another way to help is by spreading the word. Thanks so much for your support.
-maymay

A promotional image from the International Women’s Health Coalition Young Visionaries contest, encouraging young people to create lasting change in the world by advocating for the sexual health and reproductive rights of women and other youth.

Regular readers know that I have many projects. I try not to interrupt the flow of masculine submission imagery often, but when my other projects pull me strongly, this blog takes a back seat. Most recently, I entered the International Women’s Health Coalition (IWHC) Young Visionaries contest along with my Kink On Tap co-host, Emma, with a new media project called SexEdEverywhere (“SEE”):

The core of the project is a sexual health education and empowerment video campaign highlighting the reality that we learn about sex from disparate sources in many locations. I believe that the time has come for people to realize that “sex education” is not, has never been, and never should be confined to health class. I believe that young people, sexuality minorities, and certain other disenfranchised groups (still including, sadly, women) have an enormously important role to play in reforming the empty-vessel, top-down model of education and turning it into a peer-to-peer meritocracy where accurate information wins out over misinformation because it saves lives rather than being politically expedient.

That’s why Emma and I have put together a proposal for the project and submitted it to the IWHC Young Visionaries contest, a contest that, if we win, would seed our project with $1000 USD of necessary funding to get it off the ground. Part of the criteria for winning the contest is based on popular vote, which means I need your votes to win.

If SexEdEverywhere sounds like a project worth supporting, please go to the IWHC voting page and click on “Vote” next to our picture. There’s no sign-up or login necessary to vote, and the more people vote the better our chances of winning the grant for this ambitious campaign, so another way to help is by spreading the word. Thanks so much for your support.

-maymay

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Tue Mar 9
Kneeling in total blackness, a naked man in a rope harness and headdress leans back and faces upwards.
I like this entrancing photograph by LarsNYC on Flickr for its obvious and overt strength. The man is holding himself up with closed fists right along with the open and vulnerable pose. That combination creates an appealing composite because it hints at some significant substance from the model himself.
One of my favorite things about this picture, though, is the total solitude in which the man is shown; there are only minimal accoutrement to indicate a possibly submissive orientation other than his pose. This is remarkable because in my eyes it highlights the fact that submission does not come about through someone else’s control. That’s mere restriction in the best case and abuse in the worst. Instead, it comes about through a submissive person’s active desire to submit.
Consensual sexual submission is not about how someone else controls me, it’s about the opportunities I create for myself to be vulnerable to another person. A desire for sexual submission itself is a valid motivation for healthy sex, despite being a desire that’s often pathologized or invalidated by cultural pressures, levied particularly harshly on men. That’s why I so strongly advocate for empowering every individual to choose exactly what they do or do not want—a power that’s required to make healthy sexual choices for one’s self, even “as a submissive.”
-maymay
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male:self march # 4 (via lars nyc)

Kneeling in total blackness, a naked man in a rope harness and headdress leans back and faces upwards.

I like this entrancing photograph by LarsNYC on Flickr for its obvious and overt strength. The man is holding himself up with closed fists right along with the open and vulnerable pose. That combination creates an appealing composite because it hints at some significant substance from the model himself.

One of my favorite things about this picture, though, is the total solitude in which the man is shown; there are only minimal accoutrement to indicate a possibly submissive orientation other than his pose. This is remarkable because in my eyes it highlights the fact that submission does not come about through someone else’s control. That’s mere restriction in the best case and abuse in the worst. Instead, it comes about through a submissive person’s active desire to submit.

Consensual sexual submission is not about how someone else controls me, it’s about the opportunities I create for myself to be vulnerable to another person. A desire for sexual submission itself is a valid motivation for healthy sex, despite being a desire that’s often pathologized or invalidated by cultural pressures, levied particularly harshly on men. That’s why I so strongly advocate for empowering every individual to choose exactly what they do or do not want—a power that’s required to make healthy sexual choices for one’s self, even “as a submissive.”

-maymay

ireensarrows:

male:self march # 4 (via lars nyc)

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Sun Mar 7
The penis of a lean man is leashed loosely with cord and pulled to one side.
It’s rare that I come across any penis photographs that I like because they’re so often preposterously garish. Frequently, people’s fixation on the phallus trumps too many other considerations, replacing any opportunity I might have found for reverence with scorn. The model in this picture, however, actually seems honorable to me. Perhaps it’s because, while his cock is an obvious centerpiece, there is so much else to enjoy about him, like the moisture dripping down his abdomen, the rough texture of his pubic hair, or the finely sculpted shape of his arms.
Wherever men are involved, a dangerous, wide-spread stereotype is almost inescapable: the cock-centric notion that if you control a man’s penis, you control the man. Like many submissive men, I fetishize this idea; the stereotype can be convenient fantasy. But in reality, it’s important to distinguish fetishistic triggers from causes of desires, lest we perpetuate the myth that dominance is always coercive, and submission always unassertive.
-maymay

The penis of a lean man is leashed loosely with cord and pulled to one side.

It’s rare that I come across any penis photographs that I like because they’re so often preposterously garish. Frequently, people’s fixation on the phallus trumps too many other considerations, replacing any opportunity I might have found for reverence with scorn. The model in this picture, however, actually seems honorable to me. Perhaps it’s because, while his cock is an obvious centerpiece, there is so much else to enjoy about him, like the moisture dripping down his abdomen, the rough texture of his pubic hair, or the finely sculpted shape of his arms.

Wherever men are involved, a dangerous, wide-spread stereotype is almost inescapable: the cock-centric notion that if you control a man’s penis, you control the man. Like many submissive men, I fetishize this idea; the stereotype can be convenient fantasy. But in reality, it’s important to distinguish fetishistic triggers from causes of desires, lest we perpetuate the myth that dominance is always coercive, and submission always unassertive.

-maymay

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Thu Feb 25
Standing naked, a man’s wrists are tied behind his back with red rope as he holds a red rose  upright in his right hand.
This photograph was sent in by caitiff, who wrote:
I am the photographer so I am not sure I can be unbiased. However, I liked the idea because I don’t see enough of bondage as a prop of romance. Hands tied with rope are as erotic to me (if not more) than any of the stereotypical examples one can think of (nudity, the rose, ect.).
I like this simple, if perhaps somewhat cliche image, because the symbolic use of object and color is clear enough that even I (an artistic dunce) can understand it. Perhaps the only thing missing from the picture are the thorns on the rose, which seem to have been cut from the stem. Nevertheless, the association between being physically bound to being emotionally committed is a powerful one.
Romance is frequently highly prescribed; Valentine’s Day, white-dress marriages, and serenades with string quartet accompaniment are oft-referenced platonic ideals. Moreover, it’s also strictly constrained; unions not based on gender or that include more than 2 people are often mistrusted. But of course, “true” romance—like “true love”—is what you choose to make of it.
-maymay

Standing naked, a man’s wrists are tied behind his back with red rope as he holds a red rose upright in his right hand.

This photograph was sent in by caitiff, who wrote:

I am the photographer so I am not sure I can be unbiased. However, I liked the idea because I don’t see enough of bondage as a prop of romance. Hands tied with rope are as erotic to me (if not more) than any of the stereotypical examples one can think of (nudity, the rose, ect.).

I like this simple, if perhaps somewhat cliche image, because the symbolic use of object and color is clear enough that even I (an artistic dunce) can understand it. Perhaps the only thing missing from the picture are the thorns on the rose, which seem to have been cut from the stem. Nevertheless, the association between being physically bound to being emotionally committed is a powerful one.

Romance is frequently highly prescribed; Valentine’s Day, white-dress marriages, and serenades with string quartet accompaniment are oft-referenced platonic ideals. Moreover, it’s also strictly constrained; unions not based on gender or that include more than 2 people are often mistrusted. But of course, “true” romance—like “true love”—is what you choose to make of it.

-maymay

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Sat Feb 20
A burly, bleeding man partially bound half-naked to a wooden chair is punched in the face by another man wearing only the skimpiest of uniform apparel and military paraphernalia. Both men’s penises are visibly erect.
When I first saw this image, it jarred me to the point of concern, but it also reminded me of a great movie I have long eroticized: Fight Club. Even before my exposure to that movie as a teenager, I fantasized about losing fights to stronger people, usually other boys. In those fantasies, and perhaps in this (likely staged) photograph as well, unrestrained but invited aggression were highly emotional and cathartic outlets for stress, celebrations of personal strength or achievement, and playful, sporty fun.
Moreover, being beaten consensually and emerging from the experience successfully can feel mind-blowingly empowering. As Zac explains in his excellent talk at KinkForAll Providence:
 BDSM is a personal theatrical ritual. […] It’s a private performance, in which the participants are actor, director, writer, audience and stunt double. The successful carrying out of a scene depends on their mutual engagement in a shared fantasy, and this depends on effective and mindful negotiation and communication. I’d contend that navigating the mental and ethical twists and turns involved in this scene-setting has, at best, the potential for helping people navigate issues of consent and coercion in other venues of their lives.
[…]
Philip Zimbardo […] gave a TED Talk on evil. He lays out seven pre-conditions for good people to commit evil acts. They are:
Mindlessly taking the first small step.
Dehumanization of others.
De-individuation of self.
Diffusion of personal responsibility.
Blind obedience to authority.
Uncritical conformity to group norms.
Passive tolerance of evil through inaction or indifference.
So, while what we do as kinksters is sometimes compared to the institutional abuses that happened at Abu Ghraib, there’s actually no comparison between that rubric and what we do. There’s no room in there for interactions between two consenting individuals, outside the structure of social institutions, based on negotiation, discussion, communication, and empathy.
(Skip to 4:01 in the video for the start of this quote.)
Nevertheless, since consensual sadomasochistic ritual is easily mistaken for abuse by uninformed observers, those of us who engage in it have been consistently pathologized by the medical community. As a result of their ignorance, some depictions of SM have already been outlawed in the UK and a US court recently sentenced a collector of “obscene” manga to 6 months in prison. Legal decisions like these are extremely dangerous to everyone’s freedoms because their premise fails to correctly recognize the very thing on which the law is based: intent.
The sad irony is that by criminalizing healthy explorations in navigating issues of coercion through consensual sexuality, anti-porn extremists are stunting the very self-determination they so desperately want everyone to have.
-maymay
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A burly, bleeding man partially bound half-naked to a wooden chair is punched in the face by another man wearing only the skimpiest of uniform apparel and military paraphernalia. Both men’s penises are visibly erect.

When I first saw this image, it jarred me to the point of concern, but it also reminded me of a great movie I have long eroticized: Fight Club. Even before my exposure to that movie as a teenager, I fantasized about losing fights to stronger people, usually other boys. In those fantasies, and perhaps in this (likely staged) photograph as well, unrestrained but invited aggression were highly emotional and cathartic outlets for stress, celebrations of personal strength or achievement, and playful, sporty fun.

Moreover, being beaten consensually and emerging from the experience successfully can feel mind-blowingly empowering. As Zac explains in his excellent talk at KinkForAll Providence:

BDSM is a personal theatrical ritual. […] It’s a private performance, in which the participants are actor, director, writer, audience and stunt double. The successful carrying out of a scene depends on their mutual engagement in a shared fantasy, and this depends on effective and mindful negotiation and communication. I’d contend that navigating the mental and ethical twists and turns involved in this scene-setting has, at best, the potential for helping people navigate issues of consent and coercion in other venues of their lives.

[…]

Philip Zimbardo […] gave a TED Talk on evil. He lays out seven pre-conditions for good people to commit evil acts. They are:

  1. Mindlessly taking the first small step.
  2. Dehumanization of others.
  3. De-individuation of self.
  4. Diffusion of personal responsibility.
  5. Blind obedience to authority.
  6. Uncritical conformity to group norms.
  7. Passive tolerance of evil through inaction or indifference.

So, while what we do as kinksters is sometimes compared to the institutional abuses that happened at Abu Ghraib, there’s actually no comparison between that rubric and what we do. There’s no room in there for interactions between two consenting individuals, outside the structure of social institutions, based on negotiation, discussion, communication, and empathy.

(Skip to 4:01 in the video for the start of this quote.)

Nevertheless, since consensual sadomasochistic ritual is easily mistaken for abuse by uninformed observers, those of us who engage in it have been consistently pathologized by the medical community. As a result of their ignorance, some depictions of SM have already been outlawed in the UK and a US court recently sentenced a collector of “obscene” manga to 6 months in prison. Legal decisions like these are extremely dangerous to everyone’s freedoms because their premise fails to correctly recognize the very thing on which the law is based: intent.

The sad irony is that by criminalizing healthy explorations in navigating issues of coercion through consensual sexuality, anti-porn extremists are stunting the very self-determination they so desperately want everyone to have.

-maymay

(via pornotumble)

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Thu Feb 18
Leaning backwards, a man sits in the lap of a woman whose face is pushed against his body and whose hands grasp at him possessively.
This photograph was suggested by Bailadora, who wrote to say that:
This picture immediately brought to mind the entry you wrote about being on the receiving end of an aggressive blowjob.
Although I can see why the imagery here would remind one of that blowjob post, this image speaks of possession, not assertion, to me. Perhaps it’s the position of the woman’s hands on the man’s body, pulling at his underwear and pawing at his neck, or perhaps it’s the almost sacrificial offering of his body in the way the man is baring his throat. Either way, what I like most about the photograph is the evident desire exuding from both models.
Desire is a complex beast; it’s difficult to succinctly and accurately communicate what it is that we want. Worse, if you enjoy occupying certain social roles, such as submissive masculinity, cultural preconceptions about what you are allowed to want so strongly influence so many people that actually getting what you want is made even harder. And if that weren’t enough, many people often perceive frustration from wanting-and-not-getting as anger or entitlement on your part when, in fact, such frustration is simply the innate human drive towards equal opportunity.
In my pessimistic moments, I’ve all but given up on getting what I want in a significant, lasting way. Neither the mainstream nor alternative communities have felt like a home to me, with the BDSM community perhaps the most oddly sexist of all. Nevertheless, I try to stay optimistic and make things better. When people ask me why, I tell them the simple truth: I’m doing it for the children, the unborn future generations of submissive men (and other youth) who deserve a better world than the one we’ve currently got.
Please help me make something better for them than was done for us.
-maymay

Leaning backwards, a man sits in the lap of a woman whose face is pushed against his body and whose hands grasp at him possessively.

This photograph was suggested by Bailadora, who wrote to say that:

This picture immediately brought to mind the entry you wrote about being on the receiving end of an aggressive blowjob.

Although I can see why the imagery here would remind one of that blowjob post, this image speaks of possession, not assertion, to me. Perhaps it’s the position of the woman’s hands on the man’s body, pulling at his underwear and pawing at his neck, or perhaps it’s the almost sacrificial offering of his body in the way the man is baring his throat. Either way, what I like most about the photograph is the evident desire exuding from both models.

Desire is a complex beast; it’s difficult to succinctly and accurately communicate what it is that we want. Worse, if you enjoy occupying certain social roles, such as submissive masculinity, cultural preconceptions about what you are allowed to want so strongly influence so many people that actually getting what you want is made even harder. And if that weren’t enough, many people often perceive frustration from wanting-and-not-getting as anger or entitlement on your part when, in fact, such frustration is simply the innate human drive towards equal opportunity.

In my pessimistic moments, I’ve all but given up on getting what I want in a significant, lasting way. Neither the mainstream nor alternative communities have felt like a home to me, with the BDSM community perhaps the most oddly sexist of all. Nevertheless, I try to stay optimistic and make things better. When people ask me why, I tell them the simple truth: I’m doing it for the children, the unborn future generations of submissive men (and other youth) who deserve a better world than the one we’ve currently got.

Please help me make something better for them than was done for us.

-maymay

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Sun Feb 14
Many have written to me expressing thanks and praise. I find myself at a loss to express how thankful I am for that, because the fuel for this site and so much of my writings is and continues to be extreme personal sadness.
Today, Valentine’s Day, I again have only these two words instead of the three I wished for: thank you.
-maymay
Attribution update: This photograph is called Servility, by RidgeviewxKid.

Many have written to me expressing thanks and praise. I find myself at a loss to express how thankful I am for that, because the fuel for this site and so much of my writings is and continues to be extreme personal sadness.

Today, Valentine’s Day, I again have only these two words instead of the three I wished for: thank you.

-maymay

Attribution update: This photograph is called Servility, by RidgeviewxKid.

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Thu Feb 4
The KinkForAll blue and white flame-in-flame icon.
I am super excited about participating in KinkForAll Providence this upcoming Saturday, February 6th. If you don’t yet know about it, KinkForAll is a series of free, public, educational sexuality events in the form of highly participatory, ad-hoc conferences. The next one is taking place in Brown University, and is being (un)organized by Emma in cooperation with the Sexual Health Education and Empowerment Council, a student-run group at Brown University chaired by the stunningly pro-active Aida Manduley. To echo Aida’s pitch:
If you’re sex-positive, sex-curious, and/or just plain sexy, you should consider attending a KinkForAll.
KinkForAll Providence will be the 5th one. If you’ve paged through the archives of this site, you’ll know that previous events were held in New York City, Boston, and near Washington, DC. That’s one KinkForAll, in 4 different cities, just about every 2 months or so in just the first year since KinkForAll’s conception! Wow!
KinkForAll began because people in sexuality communities have a real need to mix and mingle in a non-eroticized environment. More than that, it spread because participants recognized the need for this country’s (and perhaps the world’s) public discourse about issues relating to sexuality to engage everyone—not just activists—about sexual freedom and diversity.
Come out and help us push forward! And if you can’t make it in person for any reason at all, participate online at the KinkForAll Providence Live page! I hope to see you there!
-maymay

The KinkForAll blue and white flame-in-flame icon.

I am super excited about participating in KinkForAll Providence this upcoming Saturday, February 6th. If you don’t yet know about it, KinkForAll is a series of free, public, educational sexuality events in the form of highly participatory, ad-hoc conferences. The next one is taking place in Brown University, and is being (un)organized by Emma in cooperation with the Sexual Health Education and Empowerment Council, a student-run group at Brown University chaired by the stunningly pro-active Aida Manduley. To echo Aida’s pitch:

If you’re sex-positive, sex-curious, and/or just plain sexy, you should consider attending a KinkForAll.

KinkForAll Providence will be the 5th one. If you’ve paged through the archives of this site, you’ll know that previous events were held in New York City, Boston, and near Washington, DC. That’s one KinkForAll, in 4 different cities, just about every 2 months or so in just the first year since KinkForAll’s conception! Wow!

KinkForAll began because people in sexuality communities have a real need to mix and mingle in a non-eroticized environment. More than that, it spread because participants recognized the need for this country’s (and perhaps the world’s) public discourse about issues relating to sexuality to engage everyone—not just activists—about sexual freedom and diversity.

Come out and help us push forward! And if you can’t make it in person for any reason at all, participate online at the KinkForAll Providence Live page! I hope to see you there!

-maymay