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dorkisaslur-deactivated20140510 said: What's your opinion on soft bdsm or kinky vanilla sex (such as light bondage and just pegging)
I guess there’s got to be a word for it, like maybe a fetish vs. a kink though they’ve become synonymous (if any follower has a better way to put this please feel free). Someone once said “Lick as many toes as you want or whatever.” That to me is more like a “vanilla” preference that may be unusual but not abusive - unless of course the individual who has the thing for feet makes his or her partner uncomfortable with constant urging to participate despite protestations. One of the main problems I have with “kink” or BDSM is the fact that though “safe, sane and consensual” is the “motto” there really is little respect for boundaries. The dialog becomes “But just try it,” “You’ll learn to like it,” or “you should want to make me happy!” That’s coercion, not consent. That all being said, if you like certain textures like feathers or leather, or some other non-abusive tendency that both partners are truly comfortable with, it really is entirely different.
Pegging? If that’s what you’re into and it’s not an act of violence, ok. It’s not like anal sex or dildos/vibrators are exclusive to the S&M community. Light bondage is a slippery slope. Velvet handcuffs or whatever? It still has the connotations of power dynamics that are the basis of how problematic BDSM is.
See? Even “anti-kink” radfems in all their obtuseness grok that there’s a difference between fetishy sex and BDSM.
The only people who claim that BDSM is synonymous with kinky sex are rape-apologist BDSMers who have a vested interest in convincing you that you’re just like them.
Also, the Douchey Dom now has a blog. ;)
OMG and he also has a FetLife profile.
Anonymous said: Can you please tag the douchey dom meme? Some of it is really triggering.
sure, no problem.
I’m quite forgetful about adding trigger warnings though so I may fuck up once or twice, sorry.
What I am starting to really enjoy about the Douchey Dom meme and how people have been adding to it is that it seems to exist in the uncanny valley between “BDSM is hawt” and “wait no seriously stop fetishizing rape apologism.”
Best I can hope for with Douchey Dom is that continuing to spotlight that uncanny valley will get people to realize just how central rape apologism is to BDSM.