A man standing naked with an erection is chained against a pole with his arms behind his back and a garment of some kind tied across his mouth as a makeshift gag.
I have a particular fascination with chains when they’re used for bondage. Personally, more than any other material, being bound in chains can trigger head-spaces in which I feel like a slave, which is a sexy and perhaps oddly empowering feeling. Even more fascinating than my own response to such things, however, is the incredible diversity with which people respond to specific details about their sexual experience. To make a sexual encounter successful, you must act upon such details because that’s where everyone’s fantasies—and demons—are:
It’s important to understand what these details are before you access them, but it’s equally important to eventually access them; ignoring such details is tantamount to ignoring me. When I play with a partner, a sense of depth and meaning is literally impossible to achieve if I have not first talked (usually at some length) about the details of my desires and fears, and asked questions of my partner to understand the details of theirs.
You need to be consistently inviting these details into our talks and our play; merely acknowledging their presence—without acting upon them later—is not enough. I do not believe a meaningful relationship can be built without successfully interfacing over these details.
(via pornotumble)