A collared man lays naked in the grass and mud at the feet of two classically femininely clothed people, one of whom seems to be holding his chain leash.
I think this photograph is exceptional because it remains focused on the submissive man in a way that most imagery depicting the fetishes shown here do not. In this picture, I see elements of “clothed female, naked male” (CFNM), pet play, and mysophilia (fetish for dirt, mud, or filth). While editorializing about pictures I post here, I walk a fine line between describing erotic humiliation of the sort I view as perpetuating damaging stereotypes about submissive men and the sort I view as promoting an accurate and healthy awareness about us. Of course, I have my own biases.
I am an almost obsessively clean person. When I can, I routinely take showers twice a day. I dislike feeling filthy and I enjoy the sensuality of cleanliness, which is why I love it when I’m made to be dirty. Not because I’m less or worse, not because I “deserve” it—that’s all ridiculous self-loathing; that’s the damaging stereotype. I like this picture because I like to be dirty. Part of why I like being clean is because it’s a great excuse to get dirty again.
I falter here, because it’s an area in which I understand almost nothing about the reciprocal role. As Bitchy Jones concludes:
here’s where humiliation ends – destroying the man you desire without destroying your desire along with it is hard.
(via derekisme)