Resting on the ground, curled into a fetal position, a naked man is tied with thick twine at his ankles and wrists.
This photograph piqued my interest because of how calm the model looks. Sometimes being placed in bondage is relaxing, soothing, and comforting. This is an arresting notion for some people since being physically restrained is so often associated with distress and vulnerability. To me, such reactions betray assumptions about how people relate to and interact with the physical world around them.
Being tied up does not necessarily have to be coupled with being in distress, or even feeling sexual. Have you ever been frustrated with something and found that merely getting up to walk around the block made you feel better? Simplistically, this works because you changed something about your physicality. I’ve used bondage in a very similar way, asking to be tied up for no other than reason than to put my mind and my body at ease.
In fact, I’ve found that I’m sometimes most receptive to sexual advances when I have first relaxed enough with non-sexual bondage to let my mind actually focus on the sex instead of the frustrations du jour.
all tied up