A naked man wearing ankle and wrist cuffs lays against a solid black backdrop.
This picture seems like it’s upside down for no good reason to me, but the photograph is a good one, the model is certainly sexy, and I really like the way his arms seem to be tugging against the cuffs while his legs are relaxed and spread open at the knees. That open-knee position, with the soles of my feet touching, is a position in which I sometimes feel most hedonistic and self-focused; it’s also a position I like to hold my legs in when I masturbate.
Sometimes I get asked if I feel that I’ve “grown as a person by exploring BDSM.” Sure, of course I have, but the cause of my personal growth is not BDSM itself. Everything I do helps me grow as a person, regardless of what it is. I think it’s terrible that the society in which I live deems many of the things people do to grow, including BDSM, worthy of endangering job prospects, physical freedoms, and even people’s lives over.
Such bickering over what actions are valuable or not is a short-sighted, outdated, exclusionary, institutionalized thought process; the question shouldn’t be whether or not things I choose to do make me a productive member of society but rather how to best harvest that inevitable growth. If society believes that any given person isn’t fit to be a productive member capable of contribution, then we need to reengineer our society.
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