![A man wearing a suit and holding a trumpet rests against the chest of a woman who’s supporting his head.
This touching photograph was suggested by Wren, who wrote to say:
This is one of the most evocative pictures capturing a moment of loving submission and caretaking that I have seen in a very long time. It just so happens to be of the legendary jazz trumpet player Chet Baker, taken by William Claxton in 1955. He’s simply beautiful, and their embrace is sublime. There is nothing quite as sexy as a beautiful, extraordinarily talented and young man in a suit…. Who can forget those chiseled features while listening to him play and sing “Almost Blue” live in Tokyo? There is a larger uncropped version of this picture, but this focus on Chet is my favorite.
Although this sort of picture isn’t particularly sexually charged, it is certainly heartwarming. Of course, while a heartwarming scene should be reason enough to depict masculine submission (submission unquestionably warms my heart), I’m more interested in Wren’s note that there “is nothing quite as sexy as a[n]…extraordinarily talented…man.”
Accoutrement like dress and age aside, competence is sexy. Though competence exists in myriad forms, only a one-sided slice of skills are acknowledged when it comes to sex. By and large, these skills are all of the so-called “active” ones; penetrating, flogging, binding—topping. Rarely are “receptive” skills—bottoming—actively considered. Perhaps this is because of the unfortunate misconception that bottoming is inherently a passive act.
Whatever the reason, and whatever the act, competency is gained through experience, practice, and questioning. It’s something that’s acquired not through some spontaneous or uncontrollable happenstance of luck and fate but by very deliberate efforts. In other words, you have to care about having it, or you won’t.
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A man wearing a suit and holding a trumpet rests against the chest of a woman who’s supporting his head.
This touching photograph was suggested by Wren, who wrote to say:
This is one of the most evocative pictures capturing a moment of loving submission and caretaking that I have seen in a very long time. It just so happens to be of the legendary jazz trumpet player Chet Baker, taken by William Claxton in 1955. He’s simply beautiful, and their embrace is sublime. There is nothing quite as sexy as a beautiful, extraordinarily talented and young man in a suit…. Who can forget those chiseled features while listening to him play and sing “Almost Blue” live in Tokyo? There is a larger uncropped version of this picture, but this focus on Chet is my favorite.
Although this sort of picture isn’t particularly sexually charged, it is certainly heartwarming. Of course, while a heartwarming scene should be reason enough to depict masculine submission (submission unquestionably warms my heart), I’m more interested in Wren’s note that there “is nothing quite as sexy as a[n]…extraordinarily talented…man.”
Accoutrement like dress and age aside, competence is sexy. Though competence exists in myriad forms, only a one-sided slice of skills are acknowledged when it comes to sex. By and large, these skills are all of the so-called “active” ones; penetrating, flogging, binding—topping. Rarely are “receptive” skills—bottoming—actively considered. Perhaps this is because of the unfortunate misconception that bottoming is inherently a passive act.
Whatever the reason, and whatever the act, competency is gained through experience, practice, and questioning. It’s something that’s acquired not through some spontaneous or uncontrollable happenstance of luck and fate but by very deliberate efforts. In other words, you have to care about having it, or you won’t.