A young man tethered by ropes strains to give a blowjob to a shirtless man standing in front of him, holding his erect penis in his hands.
This photograph was suggested by Johnboy. I enjoyed his description because it was from the point of view of the kneeling man, much as mine is. Johnboy wrote:
I like the dichotomy of the picture, he is so eager to give his mate pleasure, but his mate is only eager to bind him. The look on the dominant [man’s] face is just so in power. It is just very erotic.
I like this picture a lot because the clearest thing about it is how tangible desire, that often nebulous and indescribable force, seems to be. That’s why I don’t think the dominant man is “only eager to bind” the submissive one, as Johnboy indicated. Instead, he seems intent on teasing out as much sexual desire from the tied man as he can, going so far as to keep his own penis out of reach of those wanton lips.
Fellatio is a particularly fascinating, and oft-misunderstood, sexual act. Many self-described feminists believe that giving blowjobs are inherently submissive actions, thus betraying their utter ignorance when it comes to issues that intersect power and sex. Would you agree that kissing can be physically stimulating for the person actively doing the kissing? If so, why would this not be true for fellatio? It’s no wonder so many people enjoy making out and giving their lovers head.
The fact that giving a blowjob can be a submissive act, as it seems to be in this photograph, doesn’t inherently make it one any more than the fact that a woman’s breasts can be sexualized doesn’t inherently make them so.

