Leaning backwards, a man sits in the lap of a woman whose face is pushed against his body and whose hands grasp at him possessively.
This photograph was suggested by Bailadora, who wrote to say that:
This picture immediately brought to mind the entry you wrote about being on the receiving end of an aggressive blowjob.
Although I can see why the imagery here would remind one of that blowjob post, this image speaks of possession, not assertion, to me. Perhaps it’s the position of the woman’s hands on the man’s body, pulling at his underwear and pawing at his neck, or perhaps it’s the almost sacrificial offering of his body in the way the man is baring his throat. Either way, what I like most about the photograph is the evident desire exuding from both models.
Desire is a complex beast; it’s difficult to succinctly and accurately communicate what it is that we want. Worse, if you enjoy occupying certain social roles, such as submissive masculinity, cultural preconceptions about what you are allowed to want so strongly influence so many people that actually getting what you want is made even harder. And if that weren’t enough, many people often perceive frustration from wanting-and-not-getting as anger or entitlement on your part when, in fact, such frustration is simply the innate human drive towards equal opportunity.
In my pessimistic moments, I’ve all but given up on getting what I want in a significant, lasting way. Neither the mainstream nor alternative communities have felt like a home to me, with the BDSM community perhaps the most oddly sexist of all. Nevertheless, I try to stay optimistic and make things better. When people ask me why, I tell them the simple truth: I’m doing it for the children, the unborn future generations of submissive men (and other youth) who deserve a better world than the one we’ve currently got.
Please help me make something better for them than was done for us.