A blindfolded man holds his arms out to the sides. His chest and armpits are lined with clothespins.
We found this photograph a while ago but it was recently re-suggested by Wendy Blackheart. I like its look and feel because my very first few kinky pictures looked similar to this one. I imagine the instant-printing features of polaroid cameras make this a common occurrence. Beyond that, I’m certain that playing with clothespins is another easy entry way into exploring sadomasochism, since they are easily found objects that can be surprisingly painful—and fun.
Some kinky people claim that the taboo nature of BDSM play itself is a turn on. On the one hand, I can sort of understand why the thrill of “breaking the (culturally constructed) rules” could be fun, but upon further examination I’m skeptical that this desire is in fact so simplistic. How much of this is cultural taboo and how much is more akin to exhibitionistic attention whoring?
Moreover, if their desire really is simply to enact taboo for taboo’s sake, I find many of the arguments some of these people direct at me when I point out the lack of equal opportunities for sexual expression plaguing submissive men completely hypocritical. Not letting me claim cultural impedance in my bedroom when the same force fuels the activity in your bedroom is pure lunacy.
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Benjamin Fredrickson Polaroids